Our DHS trainer sent us a packet of papers to read, fill out, and return. The packet included:
- family financial report
- medical reports
- SAFE questionnaires
- Criminal Records and fingerprint checks
- home certification policy
We’re mostly done filling it all out, and will be returning the whole packet in less than a week at the initial training!
The Safe Questionnaire was interesting…. there were 11 pages of boxes to check, the first 6 pages mostly asked about experiences in childhood and relationship with parents. Things got slightly confusing and a bit amusing starting on page 7.
One of the questions that we don’t understand why it was included was “check the boxes that describe your early sexual experiences.” ??!! What does that have to do with parenting abilities?
The next one was a bit of a giggle; “check all the boxes that best describe the characteristics of your current spouse/partner”. followed by “Check all the boxes that best describe the various roles you and your spouse/partner play in the relationship”. Mike and I both laughed separately when we reached those questions. His response was a raised eyebrow, chuckle, and “Do you want me to answer honestly?” I told him yes, but to remember that he loves me while doing so. Once we were both finished we compared our answers.
Mike says that I am: appreciative, affectionate, friendly, self-centered, playful, outgoing, competitive, sarcastic, stubborn, social, happy, romantic and impulsive.
I described Mike as: affectionate, introvert, friendly, gentle, good listener, considerate, playful, thoughtful, supportive, sarcastic, flexible, stubborn, tolerant, clear thinking, smart, happy, understanding, honest, romantic, generous, dependable, good sense of humor, and kind.
My idea of his role in the relationship included: peacemaker, comforter, money manager, wage earner, organizer and negotiator.
Mike thought his roles were: head of household, peacemaker, comforter, homemaker, wage earner, rational one, follower, and negotiator. (Does anyone else think it’s funny that he picked head of household, but not leader or decision maker? When questioned on the balance of that, he just smirked.)
According to him my role in the relationships include: emotional one, social planner, initiator, risk taker, compromiser, caregiver. I put my roles as: emotional one, social planner, initiator, comforter, risk taker, caregiver and negotiator.